"Importance of a Healthy Sex Life"

When two people are in love, intimacy is shared in many different ways. Couples share personal, intimate conversations, surprisingly sweet love letters and gentle kisses and warm embraces. True intimacy requires trust and safety. Your physical self is one of your most precious gifts. To share that gift with someone you love and care for can feel frightening and thrilling all at the same time. Individuals are at their most vulnerable when they share physical intimacy with another. To share one’s body with a lover is a show of trust and love. This would explain why infidelity is so very damaging to a committed relationship.

An honest, intimate physical relationship is vital to an overall healthy relationship. Don’t misunderstand, a relationship cannot be built on sexual or physical intimacy alone. Physical intimacy serves as an invisible barometer. The lack of sexual activity or intimacy in a relationship/marriage can be a pre-cursor of other problems or issues. The inability to connect with your lover sexually or intimately can be the result of existing problems, as well.

Many couples make the mistake of not making time for each other. Don’t rely on spontaneity to create the “right mood.” This is simply unrealistic in our current society. If you have time to go to the gym and to get your nails done, you can make time to get to close to the one you love. At the beginning of any relationship, where two people have become physically intimacy, things are hot and steamy, unexpected, and a bit naughty. However, when a couple moves into the rigors of every day life (a.k.a. the real world), spending time together gets put on the back burner.

Remember to use your creativity! Make an effort to create romantic scenarios that will be appreciated by your lover. If you don’t know what they like or want, ASK THEM!! Make simple, heartfelt efforts to verbalize your feelings by whispering “sweet nothings” in your lover’s ear. Be attentive and compliment your lover. The old folks say, “Whatever you did to get them, you have to do to keep them.” Stay emotionally connected and be careful not to reject your lover. This can happen quite easily with no malice intended. If you continually push away your lover when he or she wants to give you a kiss or hug, this can be perceived as rejection. In all fairness, lovers must be sensitive to timing. If your lover is tending to children or is feeling ill, this may not be the best time to initiate physical intimacy. There is nothing attractive or sexy about a selfish lover. Always consider your lover’s needs and their state of mind.

Keep the lines of communication open. Physically intimacy begins with cerebral four-play. Someone once said, “You must stimulate the mind before you can stimulate the loins.” Take care of yourself, listen to your lover and above all else, don’t be afraid to ask your lover what they want and like. And be prepared to answer the same questions.